*This is something I posted on another blogsite. That blog no longer exists, hence this is being transferred here*Originally posted on Jan.23.2008*
I went to a viewing today, sometimes called a wake. It wasn't an easy place to be, but then it isn't about me and my uncomfortableness is it. I'm glad I went even though I wanted to turn the car back at one point. What I witnessed there left me feeling sad yes, definitely, but I was able to see the resilience that can sustain the human spirit. I felt the love people felt for the one who had passed and the determination that his wife (I know I should say widow, but I can't), had to keep all his happy memories alive. She isn't a woman of 50+, she isn't someone who has had many years of marriage to be able to sustain this loss with some understanding and brevity. She's not even 30 years of age and I saw her standing there regaling us with funny stories of her beloved and making us laugh because he would not have wanted anyone crying. I was amazed and just watching her in action made me cry because while it was misery that had caused us all to gather there this evening, it was beautiful to hear her speak and watch her face smile when she remembered him. She was married to him for only two and a half years but she says he gave her enough love to sustain her for the rest of her life. All of us should be that lucky. He leaves her behind not only with loving memories but also with their baby girl who was born just a few months back. I know my friend has a lot to face and get through but I know she will be fine even if she won't be the same. As I type this out I'm listening to an Israeli track I found a couple of weeks back. I think it's beautiful and befitting. It's called Siyaishaya Ingoma and means Sing out for Love and today I felt that happen around me. Here's hoping you feel that one day.
posted by Vee at 9:30 PM on Jan 23, 2008